Everyone has his or her own principles. n i m no exception. N i m quite obstinate about it. So is it wrong to stick to one's principle? Absolutely not, i would say. but one juz nd to be flexible in times of need. So what are my principles?
1. I dun like to lend things to ppl. Here, i m not refering to all the things that I have. But rather, there are certain things (such as clothes, jewellery and car) that i dun lend ppl. To me, these two things are v personal. If you have the money, might as well go n buy one ur self, why must borrow from ppl? Besides, when borrowing of car is involved, things can get complicated. Who's going to pump the petrol, pay for the servicing, some ppl might continue to borrow from you once u start lending them.
2. since i dun lend ppl those things, i wont borrow from them as well.
3. Only purchase or subscribe to things that are necessary. What's the point of subscribing a monthly magazine or TV channel whereby you or rather the family is seldom at home (since everyone is working) and will only be watching tat once a week? Besides, once u subscribe it, its very difficult, or rather impossible to unsubscribe it. cos ppl do get spolied. esp for those who r not the ones paying. the mthly fee might seem to be a trivial amt. but its a long term payment. it might seem insignificant every mth. but if u calculate how much it will cost a yr, it is actually quite a substantial amt. that is y i dun see e pt of changing my hp plan to a internet hp plan which i seldom use. Wat's the pt of forcing one to spend time using it just bcos it has been subscribed. this does not make sense (as it will become a chore).
4. the one who is earning the most at home (or the eldest), shld not be the one who always pay the bill (of cos when it comes to hubby, he should always be the one paying. cos he is the man of the family and THAT is his responsibility). Everyone in the family plays a part. doesnt mean that bcos this sibling is earning less, he or she nd not pay for most of the things in the house. THIS IS BULLSHIT. this is just a ridiculous reason for them to run away from responsibility.
let's say two brothers, A and B, are staying with their parents. A has a higher earning income than B. A has been paying the utilities bill and giving mthly household allowances to the parents. B, as he earns less, is not paying for most of the things. One day A moved out of the house to set up his own family. Does A still nd to pay for the utilities bill? In my opinion, he should not be paying for that. B who is still living in that house, should pay for it. But A should still give the mthly allowances to the parents.
We might not feel that paying for those bills is a burden now because the actual cost of living has not set in. But when we have our own family, when every single bill has to be paid from our pockets, the additional bills from the extended family will have an effect.
SO are these principles wrong? I m not asking ppl to be infilial. Taking care of parents is the responsibility of the children. Every child should have the same share of responsibility. It does not matter whether its daughter or son. Parents on their side has to be reasonable too. Y place all the pressure on the son. Dun you think daughters should play their part too? is it wrong for guys to be nice to their gfs and spend more time with them? I think parents have been through this stage when they were young too. Din they spend more time with their bf/gf when they were dating?
some of my frens have experienced these situations in some way or other. Some times it really makes me wonder why some families have this kind of mentality. I m really thankful and blessed to have v understanding parents.
i jus nd a place to voice out my opinion. :)
Once again, I cant wait for fri to come~
